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death is sudden and unexpected, shock                     Put the clothes away when you are ready.
       and a feeling of numbness may occur. If                   Do not let others push you to make
       a young person dies there is a sense that                 decisions you are uncomfortable making.
       things are out of order and that life is not
       the way it is supposed to be.                             As you are getting your finances in
                                                                 order, get your other affairs in order to.
       What you can do                                           Change insurance beneficiaries. Check
       Acknowledge and express your feelings.                    your health and other insurance policies.
       Grief can be confusing. Sadness, anger,                   Discuss your own funeral arrangements
       fear and guilt are some of the most                       with your family and funeral director.
       common emotions. You may feel nothing                     Taking  care  of  life’s “paperwork”  can
       at all or feel them all at the same time.                 help restore a sense of control and give
       Do not be afraid of the intensity of your                 you peace of mind.
       emotions. Mood swings are normal.
                                                                 Be patient with yourself
       Guilt can be one of the hardest emotions                  Grieving takes time. It takes far longer
       to deal with and it may last a long time.                 than anyone expects, particularly you.
       Self blame and doubt add to the pain of                   You really don’t ever get “over it” but you
       grief. This can make it difficult to share                can get “through it”. This loss is a part of
       with others. Talking about your feelings                  your life. Be assured, you will not always
       or keeping a journal often helps you gain                 feel as you do right now. Listen to yourself
       perspective and insight. There are no                     and go forward at your own pace. Don’t
       right or wrong feelings in grief, there are               be surprised when grief shows up again.
       just your feelings.                                       Just when you think you might be doing
                                                                 better, you may find yourself crying in the
       Take care of yourself                                     grocery store or when you hear a specific
       Have compassion and take care of                          song on the radio. Anger and guilt can
       yourself. Eat properly, get enough rest                   strike anywhere at any time. Forgive
       and exercise. Grief causes tremendous                     yourself for living when your loved one
       stress on your body. It attacks even the                  did not.
       strongest immune system. You may catch
       more colds, experience headaches or                       Find yourself
       muscle aches. Taking care of yourself is                  Grief has changed your life completely.
       more  important  now  than  ever  before.                 You cannot go back to being who you
       You might try some deep breathing                         were. You really don’t ever get “over it”
       exercises or relaxation techniques. You                   but you can get “through it”. You can
       can find relaxation tapes at a library or a               learn to live with who you are now. Most
       book store.                                               bereaved people experience a change
                                                                 of  perspective  and  discover  that  their
       Take control                                              priorities change. Now is a time to take
       It is important at this time to do things                 a personal inventory and reassess your
       that  can  give you back  some  sense  of                 beliefs and values. You may find great
       control. You will be faced with making                    comfort in your faith community as you
       many decisions regarding your future,                     look for meaning. You will discover new
       both personal and financial. Take time                    strengths and talents. Trust your heart.
       making major decisions. Begin slowly.
       Handle projects in small increments of                    Create new routines and rituals
       time. This will help build your confidence                Develop new routines and patterns as
       and prove that you are making progress.                   you search for the new you. Acknowledge
                                                                 the empty chair and move it. Rearrange




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