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is constantly struggling to overcome criticism and non acceptance and the other is interested only in promoting their own interests.
Momentary Versus Habitual Breakdowns: The Intention to Learn Better Habits
As we inch closer to the next section which describes all of the unsustainable kinds of love, it is important to leave this section explaining that all close and loving relationships experience momentary breakdowns or even the occasional “break ups.” Forgiveness is a very important process for relationship maintenance and repair. But like every tool, if you have to use it too much it can become more a part of the problem than the solution.
There are certain “circular processes” that partners engage in where it becomes apparent that:
“We have the same Kight over and over again.”
That feeling, the feeling that certain issues just won’t go away, means that there is a relationship habit that is chipping away at the core of your relationship and placing a burden on it.
Pitfalls and disappointments come and go. They are “momentary.” But when the same issue surfaces over and over again — like the way one partner speaks to onethe another, or something important to one partner that the other partner ignores, or what one partner
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