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Sad Love - Love which fades over a long period of time, because one or both partners fall into a pattern of complacency and lack of re- dedication.
Fad Love - Love which starts out strong and passionate but “dies on the vine” because ofr incompatibility or “equity imbalance.”
All of these negative and sometimes harmful relationship patterns can be understood by thinking about them as containing the opposites of the elements I have been describing. They are opposite to the principles and tasks that deepen and transform people and lead to lasting partnerships. Simply put, the dedication, re- dedication, work, intention, maintenance, forgiveness, equity balance and motivation to repair are not present or once were but have now faded. These items no longer take a priority in the fortifying of a relationship over time. They might never have even been there in the hirst place, or they might have been demonstrated by an “imposter” — a person you thought you knew but never really did.
In some of these circumstances not only are the important, transformative relationship tasks not there, they are present in intentions that are selhish and harmful such as:
• The relationship is used as an excuse to physically and emotionally hurt a partner to demonstrate dominance and inequality.
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