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one another. This type of relationship pattern suffers from more of a “detachment” issue than an attachment issue. The pain of the loss or detachment causes the partners to want to try again, however if the problem behavior doesn’t change and there is no improvement in how the partners dedicate themselves or manage disappointment this can a very difhicult cycle to break.
Finally, another “mad” relationship habit is as follows: One partner misbehaves, gets caught, promises to be better, then repeats this cycle over and over. Sometimes this cycle derives from the “misbehaving” partner’s crazy desire to repeat past mistakes. Sometimes the misbehaving partner gets validation by experiencing:
“If I can misbehave so terribly and my partner will still take me back I must really be worth loving.”
Be warned: Coupons for misbehavior run out. Perhaps it’s the riskiness of the behavior that is so attractive, but at the end of the day that partner is also delivering heart breaking disappointment.
Sad Love
Sad love is love that goes stale over a long period of time after starting off strong and hopeful. It happens when people lose interest in the work of deepening a relationship because they lose interest in the partner themselves. People can and do lose interest in one another. They live parallel lives instead of mutually nurturing one
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