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your partner, contributes to the transformational aspect of loving partnerships.
If you need convincing via a splash of cold water in your face, just think about what drives people to look outside of their partnerships for satisfaction — it is often the drive to hind “something new.” It’s not the drive to hind “someone” new. It’s about what drives people, what stimulates interest in knowing more about someone. It is the “novelty” that interests us in early love.
Is There a Human Drive for “Novelty?”
Yes, there seems to be a core motivational drive in humans to seek “novelty.” I am not quite completely sure we know why, and I am positive that the reason is multi-dimensional and complex, but we are motivated to seek newness — new food, new fashion, new cars. Exploring novelty could be related to our hunter-gatherer ancestors who had to search for new ways and places to hind food or partnership. It could be related to what psychiatrist and philosopher Victor Frankl believed was man’s will or drive to hind meaning, to higure out why we are here and what life is all about, especially when we encounter newness. Higher thinking critters like us want to journey and share pictures of our newness on social media and then look at ourselves all day. People get pretty chuffed when they make a new “friend”. It might explain why people gravitate to art, or watch different types of movies (because it is interesting to us to discover new perspectives), or try different restaurants. It might be the
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