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You would think that might cause people to run away from me like their clothes were on hire but that almost never happens for two reasons: First, I say it in a way that causes people to think I am kidding around with them. What kind of kook would admit to that? My kind of kook. So if you meet me and you ask me that question, know that you are getting an honest answer wrapped in a playfully deceptive disclosure. Add to this that I am sort of a nice guy who is easy to talk to. I mean, after thirty seven years of being a shrink I have picked up a thing or two about talking and listening.
The second reason is once I dangle that candy bar of admitting that I am “analyzing” you; and if I do it in a devilishly non-threatening way you are going to want to know what my analysis is — as if anyone could analyze someone in a two minute interaction. So I say,
“Come on. I just met you. I need at least another ten minutes. Ask me then.”
And then, in most cases, people forget to keep asking, which is perfect because any self consciousness they might have about me analyzing (and potentially judging, which I do not do) gets tabled and I just keep doing what I cannot help doing and we get on to the business of trying to have a relationship. Sometimes it’s a business relationship, sometimes it’s a social or personal relationship and sometimes it's a helping relationship or a teaching relationship. Here’s the part where I brag: If we engage, it’s always going to be in some fashion, a meaningful relationship. That’s because I want it to be. I think about how my relationship with you can make both of our
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