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No. “Clicking” makes the work easier but it does not make the work unnecessary.
Enjoying another person’s company is great but it gets old without both people working to sustain and re-nourish it. Sure, in the beginning of a relationship just enjoying someone’s company is a welcome respite to the stresses and strains we encounter in the day to day life of dealing with people we have no choice but to deal with. But even very compatible people become passive in the part of the relationship that demands the kind of effort that goes into making someone feel valued and loved over time. And without that work people feel unappreciated and the relationship you think you value will suffer. Simple as that.
Everything in relationships worth anything requires work. As people, we do not grow into meaningful relationships like weeds grow in the forrest. Weeds grow with little outside effort. Enlightenment, deeper meaning, and personal transformation require the work involved in thinking about how to step outside of our own needs and when important, place the needs of others above our own. Everyone can do that — not everyone wants to. Some people strongly resist placing anyone’s needs above their own. We all do that as babies, right? That’s the reason babies are so cute — they have to be in order for us to tolerate how selhish they are! Feed me, cuddle me, wipe me! At six months with a cute little face and big eyes we can take care of that all day. Later on in life, we need more and it is a good idea to start convincing yourself that as long as you are willing to give, you should get something in return. Do you like to
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