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Contributing Factor Five: Lack of a Strong Bond
If you live in the same home as your child for a period of time, but do not dedicate yourself to interacting with that child in a loving way, or if you dedicate yourself to interact with your child in an unloving way, do not be shocked if your child wants little or nothing to do with you if you separate from the preferred parent.
Again, depending on the temperament of the child, you might be able to forge a loving relationship with a child you have not put forth the effort to bond with after the caregivers go their separate ways, but it might be very slow going and there might be a substantial amount of resentment to overcome.
So what I am saying here is that there are circumstances where you can look for blame and claim alienation, but the reality is that the rejection you feel might be primarily your own fault and your best remedy is in the process of soul searching and not trying to convince a judge that you deserve fifty-fifty time with a child you do not really know.
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