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In the case of an estranged relationship with your child you will also hear this...
"Oh, and by the way, a judge is going to tell you that you have no choice to do this and you might have to do this for an unknown duration of time, until you run out of money or your child is old enough to decide to terminate his or her relationship with you--and you might never see them again after that."
This is what we demand from people who are rejected by their children as if the pain of rejection could not possibly be enough. The fact is the pain of the rejection is only the very beginning of your heartache.
I don't offer any reliable solutions nor do I know of any legal remedies that apply to all cases, and I am not hesitant about saying that. What I do offer is a measure of understanding about the problem itself and a problem solving approach (in the next two programs) that might lead to a more complete understanding of potential solutions.
I begin by describing a list of factors which contribute to parental rejection (which I also call "estrangement") which have little or nothing to do with the theory that estrangement happens when one parent actively toxifies the relationship with the rejected parent.
I want to make you understand that like most human behavior parental rejection is complicated.
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