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child to go to a place that is less appealing simply because it is the place where the other most important person to them is. However, sometimes it takes great effort to do that even when the cause of the rejection is not their malicious intent.
So when you send each other fifteen nasty emails or text messages a day, proliferate your conflict, fight over little and big expenses, and continue your relationship to pursue revenge for past injustices, why would a rejected parent expect any effort from the preferred parent and give up the joy of watching the rejected parent get what's coming to them.
That's not alienation, it's karma any preferred parent will tell you. But it isn’t karma either — it’s lack of motivation to so something for someone who hasn’t done something for you.
Not being the cause of the problem does not mean that the preferred parent has an obligation to fix it. Or does it? We will examine this further in other sections.
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