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"I will make sure our child knows what type of person you are, and you will never see her again."
The revenge motivated malicious parent sees the court system as being too busy, too dumb, too duped by the other side or too disinterested in understanding what really went on in their life or the life of their child. If the system did know "the truth" of what happened in your life the decision makers would see that the child is better off without a parent like that, but since "these people" do not really care it is their job to teach the child what a bad person the other parent is so that they can be protected from their abuse.
The revenge motivated parent typically knows that the child will suffer over being cut off from the other parent. However, "in the long run," they believe that the child will see that they are better off without that parent.
In the most serious cases these parents will kidnap or flee with their children.
Fear of Abandonment
The most basic human fear is that which is present with us at birth - the fear of abandonment. Infants come with the built in mechanism of crying and screaming to make sure their caregivers know they need attention and should not leave them to fend for themselves.
Some adults have a weakness in their ability to form healthy attachments, and that weakness revolves around a fear of abandonment that lingers past infancy--only where it is normal and typical in childhood, it is pathological and maladaptive in adulthood.
As a result, the way they operate in relationships is to make strong, sometimes smothering attachments, followed by rage and
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