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mean, unfair and rigid.
Enlisting and encouraging connections to people on "their side" to serve as parental replacements. This can happen with extended family members and new partners.
"Poisoning" teachers, nannies, health care providers, therapists and common friends who provide support for the notion that there should be minimal to no contact.
Making dramatic overtures to the child that they will miss the child and suffer horribly until they return -- and the pets will suffer horribly and the stuffed animals will suffer and their friends will suffer.
Children in this kind of enmeshed relationship will often reject the non-pathological parent because there is no consequence for it. Even after the rejection, the non-preferred parent will often continue to show love for the child and beg for their time, which usually angers and strengthens the rejection.
But that same child might not be so sure about detaching from the preferred parent who presents as fragile, suffering, enraged when feeling rejected or disappointed, and heartbroken when unable to live without them one hundred percent of the time.
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