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Are We
There Yet?
By Rifka Schonfeld, Director of S.O.S.
(Strategies For Optimum Success)
Every wonder why some people just keep ƟĞƐ ĂƌĞ ƚŚŝŶŐƐ ƚŚĂƚ ĐĂŶ ĐƵůƟǀĂƚĞ ƚŚƌŽƵŐŚ
ŐŽŝŶŐ ŶŽ ŵĂƩĞƌ ǁŚĂƚ͍ dŚĞƌĞ ĂƌĞ ƐŽŵĞ LJŽƵƌ ĞīŽƌƚƐ͘ dŚŝƐ ŵŝŶĚƐĞƚ ŝƐ ĨŽƵŶĚĞĚ ŽŶ
people who fail and they just dust them- the idea that you can change and grow
ƐĞůǀĞƐ Žī ĂŶĚ ũƵƐƚ ŬĞĞƉ ŽŶ ŐŽŝŶŐ͘ dŚĞƌĞ ƚŚƌŽƵŐŚ ĂƉƉůŝĐĂƟŽŶ ĂŶĚ ĞdžƉĞƌŝĞŶĐĞ͘ dŚŝƐ
are others who fail and choose not to try ŵĞĂŶƐ LJŽƵƌ ƚƌƵĞ ƉŽƚĞŶƟĂů ŝƐ ƵŶŬŶŽǁŶ ĂŶĚ
ĂŐĂŝŶ͘ ŶĚ ƚŚĞŶ ƚŚĞƌĞ ĂƌĞ ĞǀĞŶ ƐŽŵĞ ǁŚŽ therefore anything can be accomplished
won’t try to begin with because they fear ƚŚƌŽƵŐŚ ŚĂƌĚ ǁŽƌŬ ĂŶĚ ƉĂƐƐŝŽŶ͘
ƚŚĞLJ ǁŝůů ĨĂŝů͘ tŚĂƚ ŝƐ ŝƚ ĂďŽƵƚ ƚŚŽƐĞ ƉĞŽƉůĞ
ǁŚŽ ũƵƐƚ ŬĞĞƉ ƚƌLJŝŶŐ͍ Ž ƚŚĞLJ ŬŶŽǁ ƐŽŵĞ- Yet or Now?
ƚŚŝŶŐ ǁĞ ĚŽŶ͛ƚ͍
dŚŝƐ ŝĚĞĂ ŽĨ Ă ŐƌŽǁƚŚ ŵŝŶĚƐĞƚ ĐĂŶ ĂůƐŽ ďĞ
ĂƌŽů ǁĞĐŬ͕ Ă ƉƌŽĨĞƐƐŽƌ ŽĨ WƐLJĐŚŽůŽŐLJ ĐĂůůĞĚ ƚŚĞ ͞ƉŽǁĞƌ ŽĨ LJĞƚ͘͟ /Ŷ ŽƚŚĞƌ ǁŽƌĚƐ͕
ĂŶĚ ĂƵƚŚŽƌ ŽĨ DŝŶĚƐĞƚ͗ dŚĞ EĞǁ WƐLJĐŚŽů- LJŽƵ ĂƌĞ ŶŽƚ ƚŚĞƌĞ LJĞƚ͕ ďƵƚ LJŽƵ ĐĂŶ ŐĞƚ
ŽŐLJ ŽĨ ^ƵĐĐĞƐƐ͕ ĞdžƉůĂŝŶƐ ƚŚĂƚ ŝƚ ŝƐ ŽŌĞŶ ŽƵƌ ƚŚĞƌĞ͘ ǁĞĐŬ ĂƌŐƵĞƐ ƚŚĂƚ ƚŚĞ ƉŽǁĞƌ ŽĨ
ŵŝŶĚƐĞƚ ƚŚĂƚ ĚŝĐƚĂƚĞƐ ŽƵƌ ƐƵĐĐĞƐƐ͕ ŶŽƚ ŽƵƌ yet is in direct contrast to the “tyranny of
ŶĂƚƵƌĂů ĂďŝůŝƟĞƐ͘ ŶŽǁ͘͟ /Ĩ LJŽƵ ďĞůŝĞǀĞ ƚŚĂƚ LJŽƵ ĐĂŶ ŐƌŽǁ ĂŶĚ
ůĞĂƌŶ͕ LJŽƵ ŚĂǀĞ ƚŚĞ ƉŽǁĞƌ ŽĨ LJĞƚ ŽŶ LJŽƵƌ
ǁĞĐŬ͛Ɛ ƌĞƐĞĂƌĐŚ ƌĞǀĞĂůƐ ƚŚĂƚ ƉĞŽƉůĞ ŚĂǀĞ ƐŝĚĞ͘ /Ŷ ĐŽŶƚƌĂƐƚ͕ ŝĨ LJŽƵ ĨĞĞů ƚŚĂƚ LJŽƵƌ ŝŶ-
views about themselves that change the ƚĞůůŝŐĞŶĐĞ ŝƐ ĮdžĞĚ ĂŶĚ ĐĂŶŶŽƚ ďĞ ĐŚĂŶŐĞĚ͕
ǁĂLJ ƚŚĞLJ ŝŶƚĞƌĂĐƚ ǁŝƚŚ ŽƚŚĞƌƐ͕ ƌĞƐƉŽŶĚ ƚŽ LJŽƵ ĂƌĞ ƐƚƵĐŬ ŝŶ ƚŚĞ ͞ŶŽǁ͕͟ ǁŝƚŚ ŶŽ ƉŽƐƐŝ-
ĨĂŝůƵƌĞ͕ ĂŶĚ ĚĞĂů ǁŝƚŚ ĐŚĂůůĞŶŐĞƐ͘ dŚĞƐĞ ďŝůŝƚLJ ŽĨ Ă ͞LJĞƚ͘͟ dŚĞƌĞ ŝƐ Ă ŚŝŐŚ ƐĐŚŽŽů ŝŶ
views about themselves are labeled mind- Chicago that lists students failing grades as
ƐĞƚƐ͗ ƚŚĞ ǀŝĞǁ LJŽƵ ĂĚŽƉƚ ĨŽƌ LJŽƵƌƐĞůĨ͘ ͞ŶŽƚ LJĞƚ͕͟ ƌĂƚŚĞƌ ƚŚĂŶ ͞ĨĂŝů͕͟ ŝŶĚŝĐĂƟŶŐ ƚŽ
ƐƚƵĚĞŶƚƐ ƚŚĂƚ ƚŚĞLJ ĐĂŶ ƐƵĐĐĞĞĚ͕ ƚŚĞLJ ũƵƐƚ
ͻ &ŝdžĞĚ͘ /Ĩ LJŽƵ ŚĂǀĞ Ă ĮdžĞĚ ŵŝŶĚƐĞƚ͕ ĂƌĞ ŶŽƚ ƚŚĞƌĞ LJĞƚ͘
LJŽƵ ďĞůŝĞǀĞ ƚŚĂƚ LJŽƵƌ ƋƵĂůŝƟĞƐ ĂƌĞ ĐĂƌǀĞĚ
ŝŶ ƐƚŽŶĞ͘ zŽƵ ďĞůŝĞǀĞ ƚŚĂƚ LJŽƵ ŚĂǀĞ Ă ĐĞƌ- dŚĞƐĞ ŵŝŶĚƐĞƚƐ ;ƚŚĞ ŐƌŽǁƚŚ ŵŝŶĚƐĞƚ ĂŶĚ
ƚĂŝŶ ĂŵŽƵŶƚ ŽĨ ŝŶƚĞůůŝŐĞŶĐĞ͕ Ă ĐĞƌƚĂŝŶ ƉĞƌ- ƚŚĞ ƉŽǁĞƌ ŽĨ LJĞƚ ǀƐ͘ ƚŚĞ ĮdžĞĚ ŵŝŶĚƐĞƚ ĂŶĚ
ƐŽŶĂůŝƚLJ͕ ĂŶĚ Ă ĐĞƌƚĂŝŶ ŵŽƌĂů ĐŚĂƌĂĐƚĞƌ͘ the tyranny of now) contribute on a daily
dŚŝƐ ĐƌĞĂƚĞƐ ĂŶ ƵƌŐĞ ƚŽ ƉƌŽǀĞ LJŽƵƌƐĞůĨ ŽǀĞƌ ďĂƐŝƐ ƚŽ ŚŽǁ ǁĞ ůŝǀĞ ŽƵƌ ůŝǀĞƐ͘ tŚĞŶ ĐŽŶ-
ĂŶĚ ŽǀĞƌ ĂŐĂŝŶ͘ ĨƌŽŶƚĞĚ ǁŝƚŚ ĚŝĸĐƵůƚLJ ƚŚŽƐĞ ǁŝƚŚ ŐƌŽǁƚŚ
ͻ 'ƌŽǁƚŚ͘ dŚĞ ŐƌŽǁƚŚ ŵŝŶĚƐĞƚ ŝƐ ŵŝŶĚƐĞƚƐ ĂƌĞ ĞŶŐĂŐĞĚ ŝŶ ƚŚĞ ƉƌŽďůĞŵ͘
based on the belief that your basic quali-
August 11 '21 The Bulletin 718.387.0123 • www.willbulletin.com Y-42
