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AGE FRAME
TASKS/ISSUES/KEY QUESTIONS
22–28 ‘Trying 20s’
Key question: What should I do to be an adult?
Tasks: Shape a a a a a a dream prepare for life’s work find a a a a a a mentor develop intimacy with another Have a a a a a a deep fear that choices are irrevocable Strong belief that that I will never be be like my parents that that partners will grow together at equal speeds A time of competing forces—stability and structure versus exploration and experimentation Reasons for for marriage in in the the 20s include: the the need for for safety the the need to fill some vacancy in yourself the the need need to get away from home the need need for prestige or or practicality The presence or or absence of a a a mentor at this time “has enormous impact on development The lack of mentors is a a a a a great developmental handicap ”
There is a a a tendency to marry someone who has many characteristics of or plays a a a a a a similar role to one of our parents 30 Full resources/videos available at ahaprocess com/byqt
