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don’t understand or they don’t want change to happen to them.
Put another way, it means that when you decide that you want something, you need to overcome the gravitational pull of everyone in your environment because they don’t want you to have it! I know that sounds crazy, but it is true. It’s not that you can’t get them on board, often you can, but you need to grow and take them with you, not expect them to help you get there.
And some of them will accept the new you, but many will not.
Everyone in your life has some kind of vested unconscious desire for you to carry on as you are, so if you want change, no one is going to do it for you. We all have to take complete and utter responsibility for ourselves. Expecting others to do it for us, or even to be on board with us, just sets us up for disappointment.
This presents many problems for well-meaning parents, doesn’t it? Have you and your spouse ever had conversations about spoiling your children or are you neglecting them, or empowering them? I remember buying a new white Jeep Wrangler a couple of years being out on my own. I made the decision to purchase the vehicle and was all excited about my purchase until I got home and had “buyer’s remorse”. I called the dealer the next day and said that I wanted to get my previous vehicle back and un-sign the contract and was immediately told that wasn’t going to happen as the sale was final and my old vehicle was already sent off to an auction. As I hung up the phone, my mind raced for answers. How was I going to get out of this mess? I vividly remember the overwhelming feeling I had to figure out my finances and how I was going to afford this new purchase. It wasn’t a thought, it
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