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1. Peace of mind Without peace of mind, nothing else has much value and will adversely affect

the results you achieve in all other areas, including your relationships with loved ones, friends
and business associations. You will usually reflect on how well you are doing at any given time
by how much inner peace you enjoy.
In its simplest terms, you experience happiness and peace of mind to the degree that you are
living in sync with your values and free from the destructive emotions of fear, anger, doubt, guilt,
resentment, anger and worry. The key to peace of mind and happiness minimise the parts of
your life that cause you to feel you are comprising your values.

YOUR peace of mind is your normal, natural condition. If your time is spent solely making others
happy, you are at the mercy of the feelings of those others, whoever they might be. Organising
your life around making others happy is a never ending exercise in frustration and
disappointment, because it just isn't possible. You can't give away what you don't have. You
can't make someone else happy whilst being miserable yourself. You can't make others happy
unless you can make yourself happy first.

2. Positive perception and perspective This is the way we look at everything, filtered through a
screen of the beliefs we hold about it in our minds. The beliefs we hold will affect the thoughts
we have about anything. When mixed with emotion, those thoughts can dramatically affect the
way we behave and act and will be reflected in the results we achieve. The perception we
allow to reside in our belief system creates our perspective about that subject, person or
experience. If follows that if the original belief is distorted, erroneous or out-of-date, this can
have a dramatic effect, good or bad, on the happiness we experience. Your perceptions are
such an important and influencing factor in your ultimate happiness that a whole Lecture is
devoted to it later, where we will learn how to create improved perceptions to increase the
amount of happiness you attract.

3. High self-esteem and good attitude Adults with high self-esteem are characterised by
considering themselves worthy to love and to be loved and respected by others. Their true
perception of themselves is in harmony with the picture they portray to the outside world.
When you have healthy self-esteem you accept yourself for who you are, recognising and
appreciating yourself for your high self-worth by acknowledging your competency, skills,
intellect, talent, abilities and good qualities. The importance of high self-esteem should not be
underestimated. It is one of the foundations of your happiness and positively or negatively
affects every area of your human existence.

What is needed is a positive attitude - an attitude of being tolerant towards people, events and
circumstances and not being a stickler or a perfectionist.

It means not to getting upset just because the world is not the way you want it. Your approach
to situations is more important than the situation itself.

Such is the importance of self esteem, a full lecture called Know Thyself is devoted to the
subject.