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Our Astrology provides a profound celestial In the alchemical texts Jung studied the
map of who we are for this process. Your 16th-century alchemist Gerhard Dorn who
birth chart shows what your soul is seeking taught that the union of opposites — what
through “the Other.” Your Venus by sign and they called the sacred marriage — requires a
house and the 7th House in particular, separation. The spirit (mens) must be
describe our patterns of attraction. In When distinguished from the body (corpus) before
the Other Is You, Love Beyond Projection, I
explore the meaning of each planet when reunion is possible. As Jung explained:
placed in or ruling the 7th House — outlining
projection themes, relationship dynamics, “The aim of this separation was to free the
shadow expressions, and the healing path for mind from the influence of the bodily
each. Along with reflections, practices, key appetites and the heart’s affections.”
themes, and questions partners can ask each — Carl Jung, CW14: Mysterium Coniunctionis,
other, the book helps couples learn to share par 671
these planetary energies consciously, rather
than unconsciously acting them out. And, If In love, separation is not the end but the
you’re single, you will learn about your precondition for true union. Idealized
missing half.
projections may ignite the spark, but only
when we each withdraw them do we discover
Beyond the Spark the steady flame.
Relationships involving projection often
begin in a haze of infatuation — that euphoric
“spark” which I have now come to call our
“mirror image.” But the spark is not random; Love Beyond Projection
it is the embodiment of our unclaimed This is the painful work of love beyond
characteristics. What dazzles us in another is projection. We must take back what we have
often what in still unconscious in ourselves. unconsciously given away. Instead of demanding
It takes a lifetime to know ourselves and this that the Other embody our light, carry our
is the quest we are all on: to know ourselves. shadow, or fulfill our unfinished childhood story,
we must claim those energies ourselves to be
whole. This process can feel like disillusionment,
This is why intense attraction feels so
compelling, even compulsive. Our but it is in fact illumination and liberation in
changing times. Whatever planetary archetype
unconscious wants to be known so it
lands on a fascinating Other. Yet rules our 7th House is meant to be shared, not
projected
projection alone cannot sustain love.
Euphoria is not intimacy. The initial fire Chemistry may begin with projection, but
must give way to the slow, honest work
of truly seeing them as they are and intimacy arises when both partners consciously
hold and exchange the energy together. To love
both must be willing to do this shadow
dance. another as they truly are is to allow them to exist
outside our control — to see that differences are
not threats, but gifts. The paradox of intimacy is
that the more we separate, the more deeply we
can unite.
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