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Of course, that is not always the case, we may not be so fortunate, our circumstances and our parents may be experiencing their own difficulties on their journey. They may be struggling and attempting to do the very best under the circumstances. In our formative years we are possibly not aware of that, and at the time we just must deal with what is. Our awareness hopefully develops through maturity. Engaging in shame, blame, anger, resentment, and denial can colour our thinking and it is not a pathway we can afford to take.
If life is a bit tough, as it can be, that is when we need to draw on our own resources and strength from within. We must take responsibility, reach out to others, communicate openly and honestly both with ourselves and others.
All this came to me late in life, fortunately not too late. As previously mentioned, I would have loved to have shared all this with my parents. I will always remain forever grateful to them for their covert legacy, not so much about what they did or didn’t do, but because of who they were, I was able to navigate my way through life and evolve as the person that I am today. They can certainly rest in peace and be satisfied that what they did was the best that they were able to do. What they did pass on was invaluable.
As a parent, grandparent and great grandparent I have the opportunity to pass on the benefits of my experiences as a legacy to my family believing that they have inherited from their parents and grandparents all that is needed to fulfill their lives. It is all there, how they choose to use it, is their decision.
I take great pride in my family, my children, grandchildren, and the newest addition, my great grandson. I could not have wished for better, they come with imperfections, but mostly they come with an ability to achieve whatever it is they choose to do, they have adopted a high moral code, and they have the ability to love, laugh and be happy. They can take responsibility, and they are good parents as well as good people. I could not ask more, other than hoping that their pathway will be not be too hard to navigate with an ability to realise and drawn on their inner strength when needed.
It has been extremely rewarding to be able to share some insights into a life lived. I can only hope that I have been able to encapsulate my experiences and highlight what I believe underpins all our lives.
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