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SAVE IT TO A SPECIAL READ OLD DRAFTS FROM RESPOND “Leadership is recogniz-
FOLDER, AND TAKE A THAT SAME FOLDER PROFESSIONALLY AND ing where you have choices,”
SECOND FOR YOURSELF When the song is over, return COMPASSIONATELY he says.“Do not counter-
Once you’ve unloaded all your to your computer and flip Now that your head is clear, attack, and don’t try to win.
anger onto the page, make a through a few previously writ- you can come up with a real Try to make a success out of
folder called“This Could Have ten, unsent rants from your reply. Open up a blank email, this interaction.”
Happened.” Save the file there, “This Could Have Happened” write calmly, and channel Once you’ve done that,
and then take a quick break. folder. Dudley says this helps Bruce Banner, not the Hulk. you can finally hit “send.”
Even if you don’t have much you put the current situation Eliminate all the places in the
time, you can probably still in context.“It reminds you of draft where you use the word
afford three minutes to listen mistakes you have made and “you,” which Dudley says can
to your favorite upbeat song. avoided making,” he adds. be a trigger word, and substi- ',%22)0
“Music wakes up the whole It also shows you that not tute statements like “I feel”
brain,” Dudley says, adding taking the angry route works. or “I think.” &69')
that it’s hard to be angry and If you’d sent those messages, Dudley also suggests that &%22)6
focus on a good song at the you might have been fired or you try to identify what fear
same time.Just make sure wrecked relationships. But is motivating the sender to 238 8,)
you’re listening and not you didn’t, and in that you act in this way and address it ,90/ š
scanning Instagram. succeeded. Phew. with serenity.

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