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half, discuss it with him. Some of you would say ‘Oh what rubbish, only if

men were so cooperative’. Well, that is why I have strongly mentioned

before this point - the importance of creating a chemistry between you two

for a healthy biological exchange thereafter. You have to be best friends

with your partner before you venture into healthy childbearing. Period.

● Adding to the previous point. While you must note down and

convey to your partner how you would like your sexual experience to be

with him, you will find success in this exercise only when you take a survey

from your partner what he would like you to be. Does he find anything

particularly annoying about you during the act? Ask him dear. You may be

the “super sexy, hour-glass, lingerie flaunting, desire-of-many-hearts

Victoria’s Secret Angel Mirranda Keir” in your eyes (I allow you an

opportunity to chuckle at my example) but you do need a reality check to

confirm whether you’re in sync with the truth or are merely building

castles in the air. Your husband may just find you to be the plain Jane

requiring a facelift, a personal hygiene overhaul, more participative during

intercourse, so on and so forth. Basically, the idea is to be what you want

your partner to be. If you want a change in his ways during your intimate

time, or even otherwise for that matter, you have to bring a change within

yourself too. Change he will, if change you will.