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How To Ask A Girl

Out And Get A Yes

(Almost) Every Time

I used to be so shy that speaking
to girls made me break out in a
sweat. It was so bad that if I as
much as opened my mouth to say,
“Hi,” my vocal pitch went up several
octaves. Writes Onyango Wasonga

I used to be so shy that speaking to girls it’s possible you are curled up in a sad get your hopes up without good reason.
made me break out in a sweat. It was little ball (which just doesn’t make you Not sure if a friend likes you or not? Ask
so bad that if I as much as opened my look confident). Take up as much space her out and if she says, “What, like a
mouth to say, “Hi,” my vocal pitch went with your body as you can to reflect that date?” reply, “Yes!” without hesitation.
up several octaves. As you can imagine, you are comfortable in your body (and this Confidence is sexy (and even if she says,
this didn’t exactly help me woo the ladies hopefully goes without saying, but keep it “No,” at least you’ll know for sure).
(unless by “woo” you mean make them within reason — don’t go lying down on the
want to giggle, run away, and/or hide). ground in the middle of the bar or anything The Approach
crazy!) Keep It Simple - Don’t try to be funny
My troubles were a symptom of a and forget about impressing her. Women
common problem shared by many guys The Clothes Make the Man are attracted to men who are confident
like you: I wasn’t confident in myself. No, you don’t have to be donned in a in their own skin, so bending over
Know the feeling? Let’s give your freshly tailored suit when you ask a girl backwards in an attempt to “wow” a
confidence (and dating life) a helpful out. But that doesn’t mean you should look woman will probably just make her think
shove in the right direction. This is how to like a slob either. Dress in whatever style you are trying too hard. Take a few deep
ask a girl out and get a yes (almost) every fits your personality, but keep it classy. breaths, think to yourself, “No big deal,”
time. No wrinkled tees, dirty shoes, or other confidently walk up to her, and say, “Hi.”
fashion disasters allowed. Don’t sweat the For bonus points, find something about
Ground Rules specifics, but whatever you do, dress like her to compliment (maybe she has a neat
Your Posture Should Scream Confidence. the handsome and polished fella you are. tattoo, an expressive smile, or a witty
Most men guarantee a rejection before t-shirt?).
they even open their mouth because Gauging Interest
their appearance does not express Engage Eye Contact - If a coffeehouse Does Popping the Question Sound
confidence. Here are some simple cues cutie catches your eye, shoot a few Terrifying?
to help you remember the do’s and don’ts harmless glances in her direction. Linger If you’re worried about appearing
of posture. for a brief moment before turning your nervous, let’s make your approach as
attention elsewhere, but don’t voyage quick-and-painless as possible. March
Do not: - Stare at the ground, Cross your beyond the five second mark unless you up to her and say something like, “Hello!
legs/arms, Slump your shoulders and/ or want to be labeled a creeper. If she returns I know this is a bit random, but I just
Fidget. your gaze with a smile, this is a good sign wanted to say you caught my eye. I’m
that the feeling might be mutual. running late for a meeting/work/class/
Do: - Keep your chin up, Gaze forward, (you get the idea), but I’d love to get your
Shoulders down and back and keep your Do Not Confuse Kindness with phone number if that’s okay?”
Chest high Attraction
Just because a woman smiles at or talks
When in doubt, think about how much to you, does not mean she wants to take
space you are taking up. Is it a lot, or a your friendship to the next level, so don’t
little? If you’re not taking up much space,
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