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school.” “I can’t believe you are so dumb.” “You are
irresponsible and will never amount to anything.” Adults
struggle with self-esteem and feel unloved all their lives
when their primary love language is violated in such a
detrimental manner.

QUALITY TIME
Quality time means giving a child undivided attention.
For the small child, it means sitting on the floor and rolling a
ball back and forth with him. We are talking about playing
with cars or dolls. We are talking about playing in the
sandbox and building castles, getting into his world, doing
things with him. You may be into computers as an adult, but
your child lives in a child’s world. You must get down on the
child’s level if you eventually want to lead him to the adult
world.
As the child gets older and develops new interests,
you must enter into those interests if you want to meet his
needs. If he is into basketball, get interested in basketball,
spend time playing basketball with him, take him to
basketball games. If he is into piano, perhaps you could
take a piano lesson or at least listen with undivided
attention for part of his practice period. Giving a child your
undivided attention says that you care, that he is important
to you, that you enjoy being with him.
Many adults, looking back on childhood, do not