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The biggest common denominator that all successful, long-lasting marriages have is two willing partners who solemnly commit to stay- ing together ‘no matter what”. “They have all possibilities discussed openly prior to marriage and agreed to stick it out and stay in the mar- riage regardless of the conflict, challenge, or issue that arises.”
1)
They Are Self-Aware
2) They Understand Their Partners No, this isn’t some
Men are from Mars,
Women are Some
Venus-type lecture. It
means that men in suc-
cessful marriages take
time to learn and under-
stand how their wives feel and react and see the world. They know what upsets them. They know how to make them happy. They make mistakes and learn from them.
3) They Don’t Wallow In Disappointment Life, as they say, lobs a lot
of hand grenades your way.
How you handle their explo-
sions is extremely important
in how you fare along the
long road of marriage. In
other words: The people who
are in the most successful re-
lationships know how to stand back up after a gut punch comes their way and not wallow in their disappointments.
4) They Communicate Well
“Good communi-
cation includes talk-
ing about feelings,”
says Dr. Fran Wal-
fish, a family and re-
lationship psychotherapist and author of The Self-Aware Parent reiterating a fact that everyone has read, heard, and un- doubtedly tried to practice before realizing that communicating well, of course, is eas- ier said than done. But that, is the point. “When there’s a disagreement and heat goes up, most people have a hard time lis- tening without interrupting, judging, blam- ing, or shutting down into silence. “Wrestling with conflict and hanging in while struggling to work things through with your partner is the stuff that separates success from failure in relationships.” In other words: Talking is the glue that holds relationships and people together.
The ability to understand and accept and yourself is essential in a marriage. For one, when someone is able to clearly understand and ex- press their thoughts, feelings, and innate impulses, they’re more re- ceptive to their partner. For an- other, they also just have a better awareness of their own tendency to get, say, defensive, or be messy, and won’t be so quick to blame someone else for their habits. It’s about un- derstanding who you are.
5) They Know The Female Body
Good husbands, know what does and doesn’t feel good on their wives body. They don’t fumble around awkwardly and put pressure where they know pressure is not enjoyed. In other words, through trial and error, they have learned how to pleasure their wives and understand their de- sires. This is also where good communication skills are necessary.
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