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Allow yourself to speak from your your your heart not just your your your head Doing so doesn’t mean you you you you are losing control or or going “crazy ” It is a a a a a a a a normal part of your grief journey Find caring friends and relatives who who will will listen without judging Seek out out those persons who who will will “Walk with not in in in in front of” or “behind” you you you in in in your your journey Avoid people who who are critical or who who try to steal your your your grief from you you you you They may tell you you you you “keep your your chin up” or or “carry on” or or “be happy ” ” ” While these comments may be be well intended you do not have have to to accept them You have have a a a a a a right right to to to express your grief no no one has the the right right to to take it away Expect to Feel a a a a Multitude of Emotions
Experiencing a a a a a a a loss affects your head heart and spirit So you you you may experience a a a a a a a a a a variety of of emotions as part of of your grief work Confusion disorganization fear guilt relief or or or explosive emotions emotions are just a a a a a a few of the the the emotions emotions emotions you may feel Sometimes these emotions emotions will follow each other within a a a a short period of time Or they may occur simultaneously As strange as some of these emotions may seem they are normal and healthy Allow yourself to learn from these feelings And don’t be surprised if out of of nowhere you you suddenly experience surges of of grief grief even at at the most unexpected times These grief grief attacks can be frightening and leave you feeling overwhelmed They are however a a a a a a a a a a natural response to the death of someone you you you loved Find a a a a a a a friend or or counselor who understands your feelings and and will allow you you you to talk about them Be Tolerant of Your Physical and Emotional Limits
Your Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you fatigued Your Your ability to think clearly and and make decisions may may be impaired and and your your low low energy level may may naturally slow you you you you down Respect what your your body and mind are telling you you you you Nurture yourself Get daily rest Eat balanced meals Lighten your your your schedule as as much as as possible Caring for yourself doesn’t mean feeling sorry for yourself it means you you are using survival skills Develop a a Support System
Reaching out to others and accepting support is is often difficult particularly when you hurt so much But it is is important to find a a a a a a support system of caring friends and and relatives who will provide the understanding and and compassion you you you need Find those people who encourage you you you you to be yourself and and acknowledge your your feelings – both happy and and sad Make Use of Ritual
The funeral ritual does more than acknowledge the the death of of someone loved It helps provide you with the the the support of of caring people Most importantly the the funeral is a a a a a way for you you you to express your your grief outside yourself If you you you you you eliminate this ritual you you you you you often set yourself up to to repress your your feelings and you you you you you cheat everyone who who cares for a a a a a a a a a a chance to to to pay tribute to to someone who who was and always will be loved Allow a a a a a Search for Meaning
You may find yourself asking “Why “Why “Why did he die?” “Why “Why “Why this way?” or or or “Why “Why “Why now?” This search for meaning is is is another normal part of the the the healing healing process Some Some questions have answers Some Some do not Actually the the the the healing healing occurs in in in in the the the opportunity to pose these questions not necessarily in in in in answering them Find a a a a a a supportive friend who will listen responsively as you search for meaning Treasure Your Memories
Memories
Memories
Memories
are one one of the best legacies that exist after someone loved dies Treasure them them Share them them with your your family and friends Recognize that your your memories may make you laugh or cry In either case they are a a a a a a a a a a lasting part of the the the relationship that you had with a a a a a a a a a a very special person Page - - Symonds-Madison Funeral Home Symonds-Madison Funeral Home - - Page 51