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And at at the the same time there are are common patterns people tend to share For example someone experiencing grief usually moves through a a a a a a series of emotional stages such as shock numbness guilt anger and denial And physical responses are typical also They can include: sleeplessness inability to eat or concentrate lack lack of of energy and lack lack of of interest in in activities previously enjoyed Time always plays an an important role in in the the the grieving process As the the the days weeks and months go by the the the person who is experiencing loss moves through emotional and physical reactions that normally lead toward acceptance healing and getting on with life as as fully as as possible Sometimes a a person can become overwhelmed or bogged down in in the the grieving the the process Serious losses are never easy to to deal with but someone who is having trouble beginning to to actively re-engage in in in in in life after a a a a a a few months should consider getting professional help For example if continual depression or or or physical symptoms such as loss of appetite inability to to to sleep or or chronic lack of energy persists it it it is is probably time to to to see a doctor ALLOW YOURSELF TO MOURN
Someone you love has died You are now faced with the the difficult but important need to mourn Mourning is the the open expression of your thoughts and and feelings regarding the the death and and the the person who has died It is is an an essential part of of healing You are beginning a a a a a a a a a a journey that is is often frightening painful overwhelming and sometimes lonely This guide provides practical suggestions to to help you you move toward healing in in your personal grief experience TALK ABOUT YOUR GRIEF
Express your your your grief grief openly By sharing your your your grief grief grief outside yourself healing occurs Ignoring your your grief grief won’t make it away talking about it often makes you you you feel better Allow yourself to speak from your your your heart not just your your your head Doing so doesn’t mean you you you are losing control or or going “crazy” It is is a a a a a a a a normal part of your grief journey Find caring friends and relatives who will listen without judging Seek out out those persons who will “walk with” not “in front of” or or “behind” you you in in in your journey through grief grief Avoid people who who are critical or or who who try to steal your your grief grief from you you you you They may tell you you you you “keep your your chin up” or or “carry on” or or “be happy ”
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While these comments may be be well intended you do not have have to to accept them You have have a a a a a a a right right to to to express your grief no one has the the right right to to take it away EXPECT TO FEEL A MULTITUDE OF EMOTIONS
Experiencing a a a a a a loss affects your head heart and spirit So you you you may experience a a a a a a a a a a variety of of emotions as part of of your grief work Confusion disorganization fear guilt relief or or or explosive emotions emotions are just a a a few of the the emotions emotions emotions you may feel Sometimes these emotions emotions will follow each other within a a a a short period of time time Or they may occur simultaneously As strange as some of these emotions may seem they are normal and healthy Allow yourself to learn from these feelings And don’t be surprised out if nowhere you you suddenly experience surges of grief even at at the most unexpected times These grief attacks can be frightening and leave you feeling overwhelmed They are however a a a a a a natural response to the death of someone someone loved Find someone someone who understands your feelings and and will allow you you to talk about them ALLOW FOR NUMBNESS
Feeling dazed or numb when someone loved dies is is often part of of your early grief experience This numbness serves a a a a a valuable purpose: it it gives your your emotions time to to catch up with what your your mind has told you you This feeling helps create insulation from the the reality of the the death Shalom Memorial Chapels Inc 21