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until you you are more able to to to tolerate what you you don’t want to to believe BE TOLERANT OF YOUR PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL LIMITS
Your Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you fatigued Your Your ability to think clearly and make decisions may be impaired And your low low energy level may naturally slow you you you down Respect what your your body and mind are telling you you you you Nurture yourself Get daily rest Eat balanced meals Lighten your your your schedule as as much as as possible Caring for for yourself yourself doesn’t mean mean feeling sorry for for yourself yourself it means you you are using survival skills DEVELOP A SUPPORT SYSTEM
Reaching out to others and accepting support is often difficult particularly when you you hurt so much But the most compassionate self-action you you can do during this difficult time is is to find a a a a a a a a support system of caring friends and and relatives who will provide the understanding you you need Find those people who encourage you you you you to be yourself and and acknowledge your your feelings - both happy and and sad MAKE USE OF RITUAL
The funeral ritual does more than acknowledge the the death of someone loved It helps provide you with the the the support of caring people Most importantly the the funeral is is a a a a a a way for you you you you to express your your grief outside yourself yourself If you you you you you you eliminate this ritual you you you you you you often set yourself yourself up to repress your your feelings and you you you you cheat everyone who who cares for a a a a a a a a a a chance to to pay tribute to to someone who who was and always will be loved ALLOW A A A A SEARCH FOR MEANING
You may find yourself asking “Why “Why “Why did he die? “Why “Why “Why this way?” “Why “Why “Why now?” This search for meaning is is is another normal part of the the healing process Some Some questions have answers Some Some do not Actually the the the healing occurs in in in the the the opportunity to pose the the the the questions not necessarily in in in in in answering them Find a a a supportive friend who will listen responsively as you search for meaning TREASURE YOUR MEMORIES
Memories are one one of the best legacies that exist after someone loved dies Treasure them them Share them them with your your family and friends Recognize that your your memories may make you you laugh or or cry In either case they are a a a a a a a a a a a a a lasting part of the the the relationship that you you had with a a a a a a a a a very special person in in your life MOVE TOWARD YOUR GRIEF AND HEAL
The capacity to to love love requires the necessity to to grieve when someone you you love love dies You can’t heal unless you you you openly express grief grief Denying your grief grief will only make it become more confusing and and overwhelming Embrace your grief and and heal Reconciling your grief grief will not not happen quickly Remember grief grief is a a a a a a process not not an an an event Be patient and tolerant with yourself Never forget that the death of someone loved changes your your life forever It’s It’s not that that you you you won’t be be happy again It’s It’s simply that that you you you will never be be be exactly as you you were the the same before the the death ACCEPTING A A LOSS
For each of us us - - rich or or or or poor young or or or or old - - there are times in our lives when we must face and and and deal with personal losses and and and the the the pain and and and sorrow they cause Examples that come easily to mind are are the the the death of a a a a a a a a a a a parent spouse child or or other other close family member or or friend Many other other events and transitions also bring with them sadness and a a a a need to grieve:
• Being told you have a a a serious possibly terminal illness • Having to give up interests and activities that have been a a a a a a a a major part of your life • Seeing serious decline in in in mental or physical health of someone you love • Retiring from a a a a work career or or 22 Shalom Memorial Chapels Inc