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Talk About It: dating safely
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February is Teen Violence Aware- ness Month (TDVAM), and the theme for this year is “Talk About It.” It is a call to action for young people and those who support them to have mean- ingful conversations and to talk about what to do in unhealthy and abusive relationships.
Teen dating violence includes physi- cal, emotional, sexual, or digital abuse in a current dating relationship or by a former dating partner. Young people experience violence at alarming rates. According to the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey:
Over 71% of women and over 55% of men first experience intimate partner violence (sexual or physical violence, and/or stalking) under the age of 25.
One in four women first experienced intimate partner violence prior to the age of 18.
Experiencing violence in youth can have long-lasting impacts, making it even more critical to prevent violence before it occurs. By promoting social norms that protect against violence (such as bystander programs and en- gaging men and boys) and supporting survivors, we can lessen the impact of sexual violence and prevent future victimization.
A healthy relationship requires open communication, safety, trust, and respect. Teaching children and young people about healthy relationships and consent should start early with
age-appropriate messages through childhood and teen years. TDVAM is an opportunity to promote healthy relationships and consent, which are key to preventing sexual violence. Advocates can reinforce what consent looks like by educating parents, care- givers, and others on how to practice everyday consent and about healthy relationships.
Organizations:
Love is Respect.org: A project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, they are a resource to empower youth to prevent and end dating abuse.
That’s Not Cool.com: Helps young people draw a “digital line” about what is and what is not okay in their relationships.
Hashtags for Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month:
#TDVAM, #TeenDVAM, #LoveIs- Respect, #HealthyRelationships, #BreakTheCycle, #TeenDatingVio- lenceAwareness, #PreventTeenDV, #RespectWeek, #DatingViolencePre- vention, #SpeakUpForTeens, #Oran- ge4Love (Orange is the official color of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month), #EducateEmpowerEnd- DV, #YouAreNotAlone, #NoMoreDV, #StandUpAgainstTeenDV,
Please contact the Integrated Prevention Office if you would like additional resources or have any ques- tions. The team is in building 465 on Luke AFB.
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Domestic Abuse Intervention Project 202 East Superior Street
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512.407.9020 (phone and fax) • www.ncdsv.org 4612 Shoal Creek Blvd. • Austin, Texas 78756
ISOLATION/EXCLUSION: Controlling what another does, who she/he sees and talks to, what she/he reads, where she/he goes. Limiting outside involvement. Using jealousy
to justify actions
SEXUAL COERCION: Manipulating or making threats to get sex. Getting her pregnant. Threatening to take the children away. Getting someone drunk or drugged
to get sex.
TEEN POWER AND CONTROL
USING SOCIAL STATUS: Treating her like a servant. Making all the decisions. Acting like the “master of the castle.” Being the one to define men’s and women’s roles.
INTIMIDATION:
Making someone afraid by using looks, actions, gestures. Smashing things. Destroying property. Abusing pets. Displaying weapons.
PEER PRESSURE: Threatening to expose someone’s weakness or spread rumors. Telling malicious lies about an individual to peer group.
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ANGER/EMOTIONAL ABUSE:
Putting her/him down. Making her/him feel bad about her or himself. Name calling. Making her/him think she/he’s crazy. Playing mind games. Humiliating one another. Making her/him feel guilty.
MINIMIZE/DENY/ BLAME:
Making light of the abuse and not taking concerns about it seriously. Saying the abuse didn’t happen. Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior. Saying she/he caused it.
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THREATS:
Making and/or carrying out threats to do some- thing to hurt another. Threatening to leave, to commit suicide, to report her/him to the police. Making her/him drop charges. Making her/him do illegal things.
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