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Bad Listening
The most important issue the
Parenting Shop encounters is Yearly the foundation re- and attention. We offer a
the parent complaining that ceives about 350 phone calls, separate program for this
the child won’t listen. Every different callers by the way. group also. The last years we
parent at some point will rec- In the office they have ap- notice that luckily this group
ognize this, but it is the most proximately 200 sessions with is declining, but we do see
significant red line through all parents. The lectures reach that the teenage mothers
problems. “Communication 800 to 1000 parents. get younger, from 13-14 years
is the golden key. Especially The demand for help is sta- onwards.”
during puberty. Children are ble, but they see that each The foundation would like to
more assertive, parents have year other parents call thus make more use of social me-
difficulties with the change you can see we establish a dia to educate the group of
in behavior and listening is growth in reach. “Teenage parents. Your contribution
the main issue of parents in mothers is a special group and help is more than wel-
many cases. Also there is the that requires more sessions come in this matter. q
cultural asset, in the Carib-
bean it is common thought
that what the parent says
rules.”Regularly the founda-
tion hears parents admitting
that they beat their kid out
of impotence. The second
significant struggle is the lack
of structure within the educa-
tion. “We teach parents to
Corina Linssen is Coordinator of Tienda di Edu- be consequent and build in a
cacion, meaning Parenting Shop. This founda- routine that gives peace and
tion is actually a help line for parents. “Most rest to parent and child. The
probably you have heard about the help line younger child benefits strong-
for children 131, but this is for the other line: the ly by a schedule and over-
parents themselves, available for free by dial- view and the parent needs
ing 161. Monday to Fridays from 8 AM to 9 PM to guide in this matter.”
parents can call us without charge and can
visit us here at the office for consults between Role Pattern
8 AM and 6 PM.” From the children’s point of
view, Tienda di Educacion
The foundation_ that has now been in exis- hears issues like experiment-
tence for 5 years_ not only gives individual ing with drugs, relationships,
support to parents, but also organizes group school problems and com-
sessions and workshops for mothers, fathers munication between par-
and other caretakers. Corina: “The church, ents especially with divorced
the work place, the school, the child care, the parents. The parents of the
sport club, just name it and we go there. Prac- group children in the age of
tically all places where parents come together 10 years and up is mostly rep-
have our attention.” The topics the Parenting resented. Corina: “The age
Shop discusses are broad: In what way I con- of the parents is variable, but
sult my children? How do I discuss values and we see that mostly mothers
norms? What about sexual education? How do call for help. It has to do with
I guide my child with regards to social media? the role pattern that mothers
How do I prevent that my personal stress as a overall take care of the edu-
parent reflects on my child? How do I guide cation, not always though
my child in case of bullying? “Often the topics because of lack of interest of
are adapted to the kind of group we have in the fathers. The mother many
front of us, depending on their kid’s ages also. times takes this role upon her-
Besides me, my colleagues Noemy Haddocks self and does not give the
and Nicole Kock, both Parenting Consultants, space to the father to reach
make up for the team.” out.”

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on the name ofStichtingTienda di Educacion, ,Belgiestraat 2, Aruba. For more information visit the website: https://www.tdearuba.com or Face-
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