Page 14 - EA Module 1 Shifting Mindset

Reframing behaviour: the aim should be to work out the unmet

needs and missing skills beneath the visible behaviours

What we actually see:

Incorrect uniform Refusal to do something Being the joker Exploding angrily

What it is really about:

I need to feel I count. One or more of my 5C Needs
I need to feel I count. I have a big need for control.
I have a tough time regulating are not met well.
I have a tough time being I have a tough time being
big feelings & managing I have a tough time tolerating
flexible. flexible.
impulses. unpleasant feelings.

We can use carrots and sticks to quash behaviour for the moment – but it will likely pop up again. ​
Helping children to understand and address (in prosocial ways) their unmet needs and build missing skills

is the best way to secure change that lasts.​