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When needs are not met well:
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The stress response is activated The person’s brain seeks ways The stress response is activated
(we refer to this as Danger Brain). to ‘fill the gap’ of unmet needs. (we refer to this as Danger Brain).
The person has the skills to The person does not yet have The person does not yet have
tolerate the unpleasant the skills to hold the urge. the skills to tolerate the
feeling in ways that are helpful unpleasant feeling.
to them and others. They may then fill that need in
ways that are unhelpful to them They fight, flight, flock, fawn,
If the brain seeks to fill that need or others. freeze or flop.
in unhelpful ways, they have the
skills to hold the urge and seek
more helpful ways.
