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Strong Flexibility

Checklist

I DEMONSTRATED
SKILL
THIS SKILL

I CAN BE EMOTIONALLY FLEXIBLE & LOOK

AT THE WIDER PICTURE
When I experience unpleasant feelings such as
sadness, jealousy, shame or disappointment, I can
remind myself that it will not last forever and I can
soothe myself.
When things go wrong, I am able to react in a way
that is about right for the size and seriousness of the

issue.
When I am upset by something, I can recognise
accurately how big a deal the issue is.
When something is difficult or unpleasant, I can
remember that experiencing a range of emotions is
normal and there will be happier moments ahead.

When things are not as I would like, I can take a
wider perspective e.g. If I want pizza but there is
none left, I can soothe myself with thoughts that
there will be other times to eat pizza and there are
other foods available which I can enjoy now.

When things do not turn out as I would have liked, I
can recognise and focus on the positives going on for
me.

I CAN COMPROMISE
I can think of different ways to compromise that
would mean everyone’s needs are met.

I can compromise: I am able to give up a bit of what I
would like so that everyone’s needs are met better.

I can be flexible enough to follow an instruction or
direction given by someone else. I can feel a sense of
control over what happens to me, even when
someone else is giving the directions.

I can follow someone else’s way of doing something,
even if it is different to the one I felt was best.