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Learning to Stay in the Growth Zone

In life, there will always be times when are needs cannot be met so well: it

may be the room is too noisy, the task feels too difficult or a bit boring or

we may be around people who we are not sure like us.

Being able to tolerate times when our needs are not met is a really

important life skill.

The first step is to extend or grow our tolerance control.

That means being able to hold on to an unpleasant feeling without reacting

with a threat response – fight, flight, freeze.

Even something small (such as giving up on

the idea of starting a Dungeon and Dragons

group) is a stress response – just a mini one.

Giving up on something is a kind of freeze or

flight (moving away from the difficult task).