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your child to have a a a a positive and meaningful relationship with both parents 3 Treat your ex like a a a business partner The job of raising your child is is the most important business venture you will ever embark on You do not need to to schedule Sunday family dinners together but if you you you treat your interactions as you you you would a a a professional business communication then you can co-parent respectfully and with civility When you you find yourself instilling emotion into your interactions take a a a a step back before you you hit send on that text You would not yell at at your boss and send them an an emoji of your middle finger so do do not do do that to your ex either 4 Don’t sweat the small stuff Remember that your goal is is to raise a a a a well-adjusted child who is able to have healthy relationships so whether or not they were returned to you with the the same
sweatshirt they left with or that your ex was ten minutes late for a a drop off it it does not fit into the end game Your child should not feel anxious about a a a a a reaction the the other parent will have to something It is not the divorce that impacts children as much as it is is the divisiveness between parents If you can attend a a a a a soccer game and sit together or eventually your child’s wedding and not have to be seated on opposite sides of the the room then you you have given your child an invaluable gift Co-parenting is hard work especially because your relationship broke down for a a reason but your child is worth the effort Attorney Renee C Bauer
Bauer
is Principal and Founder of the Bauer
Bauer
Law Group LLC located in Hamden She is an attorney author and peacemaker She authored Percy’s Imperfectly Perfect Family (Archway Publishing) a a a a children’s book about divorce and Divorce in Connecticut (Addicus Books) both of which can be found on on Amazon HamdenMag com | Mid-Winter 2019
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Checkmate in Two Moves White to Move Move Play More Chess! Chess Chess Academy is based in Hamden CT and and has offered chess classes and and lessons for children and adults since 2011 See www PlayMoreChess com for local chess resources and daily chess puzzles Find the solution to this puzzle on on page 23 For more puzzles and chess resources in Hamden visit: www PlayMoreChess com Chess Puzzles for Hamden Magazine (#1 – 5)