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attending them are therapists or spouses that feel a certain

blockage in their relationship.

“The tools are mostly based on how to talk to your spouse. A

dialogue like we are having now is an important thing. When

does a couple sit down to talk about how they feel and what

they’ve been through in life? People are busy with kids, making

a living and a home. They talk a lot about other things, but they

don’t sit comfortably, gently and openly telling each other about

themselves. Due to these things, the spouse can’t really

understand what’s happening inside the other person, how he

ended up being what he is today. When such openness exists, a

lot of criticism the spouse has and a lot of reservations on their

behavior are diminished. When a couple works in the workshop

and they later tell about the experience, I ask: “tell me, didn’t

you know this?” and the answer is always this: “I did know. I

know her mother and father, but I didn’t really understand what

it means”. Openness leads to compassion and acceptance”.

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