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The Aspects of the Muslim Way of Speaking

them out of irritation and do not be harsh with them but speak
to them with gentleness and generosity. Take them under your
wing, out of mercy, with due humility and say: "Lord, show
mercy to them as they did in looking after me when I was
small." (Surat al-Isra': 23-24)
Muslims should adopt a well-mannered and respectful way of
speaking towards their parents, even to the extent of not resorting to
rude grunts like "Ugh!" as an answer. They should be humble and em-
pathetic towards them, and should always use the best language to-
wards them. They labored to raise them and bring them up, and they
should show them the same patience and compassion when they reach
their old age. They should also be forgiving of their parents' faults and
approach their needs with kindness. No matter the situation, they
should never behave angrily or impatiently towards them.
Even if one's parents rebel against Allah, as according to the Qur'an,
though Muslims should not obey them in matters of religion, they
should nevertheless do their best to get along well with them. The
Qur'an explains the sort of behavior the faithful are required to under-
take as follows:
But if they try to make you associate something with Me about
which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. Keep company
with them correctly and courteously in this world but follow the
Way of him who turns to Me. Then you will return to Me and I
will inform you about the things you did. (Surah Luqman: 15)
We have instructed man to honor his parents, but if they en-
deavor to make you associate with Me something about which
you have no knowledge, do not obey them. It is to Me you will
return and I will inform you about the things you did. (Surat al-
‘Ankabut: 8)
In the Qur'an, attention is also directed to the superiority of this be-
havior, by giving the example of the Prophet Yusuf's (as) well-man-

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