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Published in Emotion, the researchers surveyed (опросы) hundreds of
participants (учасников), making a distinction (разницу) between the
“ideal self” (not achieving goals they had set for themselves, their dreams,
and ambitions) and “the ought self” (то, что должно быть) (not meeting
the norms and rules they had for themselves or fulfilling their obligations
to others). They asked participants to list, name, and categorize their
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regrets.
Across the different studies, the participants said they experienced regrets
concerning (относительно) their ideal self more often (72% vs. 28%).
Furthermore, when asked to name their single biggest regret in life,
participants were more likely to mention (упомянуть) a regret about not
fulfilling their ideal self (76% vs. 24%).
“When we evaluate (оцениваете) our lives, we think about whether
we’re heading toward our ideal selves, becoming the person we’d like to
be. Those are the regrets that are going to stick with you, because they are
what you look at through the windshield (лобовое стекло) of life. The
‘ought’ regrets are potholes (выбоины) on the road. Those were
problems, but now they’re behind you.” – Tom Gilovich.
Let’s ponder a couple of questions:
What is it that you currently regret most about your life?
What do you most not want to regret about your life when your time is
up?
People regret their inactions (бездействие) more than their actions in the
long term. Not falling in love, not hanging out (тусить) with good
friends, and not working toward a healthy body are just a couple of
common themes.
Maybe you never started writing that book despite your love for writing.
Perhaps you haven’t set up your own dream business because you were
afraid of what people would think if you actually tried.
The thing is, taking action is that first step (начать что-то делать –
первый шаг к тому, чтобы) to ensure (обеспечить) you avoid regrets.
Confidence comes with taking action. Making a commitment
(обязательство) to follow through and then having the courage
(мужество) to do it builds the momentum (стимул).
If we don’t fearlessly pursue (бесстрашно преследовать) these things,
we start blaming ourselves (винить самих себя) for not taking action
and the regret compounds (компелкс сожалений).
 The Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda. If you are clear on our
purpose and priorities in life, you can create the personal power
necessary to push through (идти дальше), and take action on the
things that matter most.
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