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B. Self-esteem or self-worth comprises what we think about ourselves. It pertains to the confidence you
feel about yourself.
Carl Rogers (1902-1987), a humanist psychologist, believed that feelings of self-worth developed
in early childhood and were formed from the interaction of the child with the mother and father.
For Carl Rogers (1959) a person who has high self-worth, that is, has confidence and positive
feelings about him or herself, faces challenges in life, accepts failure and unhappiness at times,
and is open with people.
A person with low self-worth may avoid challenges in life, not accept that life can be painful and
unhappy at times, and will be defensive and guarded with other people.
A number of factors can impact self-esteem, including how we compare ourselves to others and
how others respond to us.
Your self-esteem affects many aspects of your life. For example, when you have high or positive
self-esteem, you feel good about yourself, believe you can be successful, and have the confidence
to try new things.
When people respond positively to our behavior, we are more likely to develop positive
self-esteem. When we compare ourselves to others and find ourselves lacking, it can have a
negative impact on our self-esteem.
Constructive criticism is helpful advice. It is meant to help you grow and improve and often
includes suggestions for solutions.
For example, if your music teacher suggests a different song to fit your voice, you could
improve your performance by following that advice.
Learning to accept constructive criticism is a good way to improve your self-esteem.
C. Values are the beliefs and principles you choose to live by and what is important to you.
Your values define who you are, shape your attitudes and your choices, and help you identify your
priorities.
Values are usually influenced by family, religious beliefs, teachers, friends, society, and personal
experiences. Perhaps your family places a value on how birthdays and holidays are celebrated. A
good family life is a common value shared by most people.
People have different values because their interests and experiences are different. People come
from a variety of backgrounds. The way you prioritize your values may also be different from the
way others prioritize their values.
Prioritize means to rank or order things by their
importance. For example, some people put a high priority
on regular exercise and healthful eating.
Knowing what you value will help you make good decisions.
As you develop your value system, you may notice that
some of your values are in conflict with each other.
For example, you may spend the afternoon finishing a
math assignment because you value good grades. What
if your friends invite you to the movies that same
afternoon?
You will have to decide which value is more important.
Is it completing your math homework or is it being with
your friends? What you value says a lot about you.
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