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How to Use This Parenting Anger Book

You probably acquired this book because you want to change.

Perhaps you’ve been struggling with getting angry with your child, and you don’t like how you feel
afterward and how it’s impacting your relationship with him/her.

You think back and remember situations where you said or did things out of anger that you wish
you could take back. You’ve probably promised yourself many times, to try to do better next time.
To speak more calmly or gently and to be more understanding and less shameful and criticizing.

It doesn’t always work. Because of what’s happening in your brain and body when you get angry,
it may seem easy to lose control when you become angry with your child.

Sometimes you remember to remain calm, but sometimes your child pushes your buttons and it
seems that the emotion is so overwhelming that you lose control.

After being angry with your child, the range of your feelings can be complex and challenging. You
may feel guilty or perhaps disgusted and disappointed with yourself that your angry reactions
seem so automatic and out of control.

Perhaps you have even felt helpless, desperately wishing you had more ways to react to your
child that didn’t make you feel as bad afterward.

For many, anger is frequently perceived as negative which causes less than healthy, even
sometimes toxic, reactions.

By changing your anger, you will realize that the way you show your anger is your choice.
Empowered with healthy anger tools, you can make healthier choices – where you’ll actually feel
better afterward and closer to your child.

Your anger is not always about the current frustration you’re feeling for your child. The way you
show your anger is a learned behavior. Often the roots of your anger can be traced back to how
others have shown anger toward you.

Right now, your anger may just be your way of coping with the lack of knowing how to react to
your child when they are misbehaving or disappointing you. When you change your anger, it
becomes a teaching tool and a way to strengthen your relationship with your child.
Changing your anger is a simple, yet complicated, process. Since the way you show your anger
is a learned behavior, this means you have developed anger behavior patterns and habits.

Changing your anger patterns and habits will require focus and consistent commitment. Once you
begin to change your anger habits, you will feel calmer, happier, and closer to your child and other
family members.

Are you ready to get off your anger merry go round?

Are you ready to change your anger?

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