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I pointed out that he was probably defining
"competitive" and not "negative." He was relieved to get
closer to his true self.
The truth is, there‘s no such thing as a negative
attribute; only positive ones turned upside down by time
and circumstance.
After a speech I gave in St. Louis, Emilie came up to
me and said, "When you mentioned that bit about living
in a world where millions of introverts are forced to
masquerade as extraverts just to make a living and it
doesn’t come easy, you were so right. I planned this event
tonight, and I‘m an introvert—I’m totally anti-social."
I told her I didn‘t believe there is such a thing as anti-
social. "I‘m guessing," I told her, "that you were probably
born super-sociable. And when you were young,
someone hurt you so badly in your ’super-socialness‘ that
you turned that attribute upside down and said no one is
ever going to hurt me like that again. On the bottom of
the attribute was written ’anti-social' but deep down, you
are still super-sociable."
"You are right." She hugged me with happy tears.
A troubled woman in her late thirties, Susan,
attended one of our Purpose Quest workshops. She
lived on her husband‘s family farm, thirty miles north of
Toronto. It was her duty to cook, clean, shop, and wait
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