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on her in-laws—mother, father, brother, and uncle—as
well as help them out around the farm when things got
hectic.
Susan was at her wits' end: insecure, depressed, and
anxious. We began by telling her it was okay to not feel
okay. It really helps to allow yourself to feel whatever
emotions are coming up.
"Everywhere I turn, I‘m marooned," she said. "I don‘t
know whether to go forward or backward, left or right. I
don‘t know which way to turn."
When asked to come up with seven words to describe
herself, she snapped, "I‘m an aggressive, angry bitch for
starters. Or so I‘m told." She eventually added:
methodical, loyal, challenging, and impatient.
An hour later, we had accurately reframed the words
she gave us to describe herself. When we dug deep
down, aggressive became stimulating, angry became
quick-witted, bitch turned into having high standards,
and impatient changed to ambitious. The rest stayed the
same.
In a flash, Susan realized how, over the years, the
people around her had poisoned her self-talk, turned her
strengths into weaknesses, and made her believe all these
negative things about herself. No wonder a stimulating,
quick-witted woman with high standards, living in the
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