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Revelation 12:11 “They triumphed over him by the blood of the
Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their
lives so much as to shrink from death”.

I am too love only her and she should not feel any competition.

A husband is not to become bitter toward his wife.

Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with
them.”

Husbands say they love their wives but if they saw a video of themselves, they would say, “If I didn't know
that man I would say he does not love his wife.” The word “bitter” means to be sharp, cutting and harsh.
Don't prick her with a pin using your words. Never use an unkind tone of voice, but always be tender. Never
use a harsh or demeaning manner, but always be gentle. Never tear her down, but always build her up.
Never be controlling, but always empowering.

A husband’s love ought to build up and enrich his wife.

Ephesians 5:28–29 “In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own
bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own
body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church.”

Other versions of the Bible use the term “nourish and cherish”. Nourish means to provide what is necessary
for growth. Cherish means to treasure and treat with tenderness. If you've never done so, ask your wife
what she needs to feel fulfilled as a woman. Then look for special ways to fulfill her needs. At first, she may
not believe your changes will last. But don't despair. It takes a long time to develop a sturdy relationship.

What would you tell your best friend to do if his wife said she didn't believe he loved her anymore?
Whatever you would say to your friend, this is what you should do for your wife.

Sometimes the best way to kick start your marriage is to simply give your heart to your spouse. Letting go of
your emotional roadblock encourages her to do the same.

Nobody falls out of love. We become selfish and build walls around our love. So, stop sinning.

God's design for marriages includes a built-in provision that makes it self-sustaining and continual. When a
husband decides to give his love back to his wife and forgive her, she cannot resist it because she is dying for
it.

Love is cherishing your wife by responding to her as a valued gift from God. You will honor God if you love
your wife fervently and never allow your love to grow cold. Agape love includes both our actions and our
emotions. Agape love chooses to care deeply and lavish affection. Take control of your emotions before you
come home to your wife. Crank up your love in the same way you start a car engine.

Agape love never fails and guards against a refusal to forgive and against apathy. Agape love does not show
vengeance. Say to yourself, “I am not going to withdraw my heart from you. I'm going to allow you to keep
it. Your heart may hurt my heart. That's OK. I will take the hurt. It will heal itself. I will not seek revenge, give
silent treatment, stick you back, and so on.” The next time you feel hurt, try not to tune her out or put up
walls.
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