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Counseling with a person given to anger.

1. Ask questions about their anger. There are six questions a person should ask about their anger:

1. Did you get angry about the right thing? (This applies to the anger iceberg!)
2. Did you express your anger in the right way?
3. Did your anger dissipate quickly?
4. Was your anger under control?
5. Was the effect of your anger God-honoring?
6. Did you sin against God or others as a result of your anger?

2. If the answer to question 6 is positive, take them through the process of dealing with sin. I John 1:9
says, “If we confess our sins, God is faithful to forgive us our sins, and cleanse us from all
unrighteousness.” The word, confess, means to admit and agree with God that we have sinned. We tell
God we have sinned by our anger and we admit that before Him. When we do, He promises to forgive.
We can uproot anger by first repenting. Then we need to, without qualification, ask for forgiveness of
the person or persons we wrongs in our anger. Perhaps in counseling, you could have the person
practice how to ask for forgiveness by roll playing. You become the offended, and they must apologize
to you in practice. Make sure they don’t says things like, “IF I wronged you…” Have them admit their sin
pointedly and ask for forgiveness.

3. If the answer to question 6 is negative, then as them how they can channel their anger to
accomplish something that would result in righteousness. For example, perhaps they were angry about
how another person was treated. They could seek ways to change the status quo. They can channel
their anger to make a wrong right.

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