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If talking to them, don’t dive right into the issue before connecting, even briefly, on a personal level. (How is your family? How was your vacation?)
§ Remembertoacknowledgeandthankthemfortheireffortsor contributions if appropriate for the communication. And be clear where their assistance is needed. Be sure to use a soft approach when offering constructive feedback.
THE DETAILS ABOUT PRINT® 2
Major PRINT® Twos can zero in like radar on other’s physical and emotional needs and then they expertly and relentlessly respond to these needs. They are proud to take care of their family and the people that they work for, the people in their domain and they are really able to do that in a way that no other Print is able to do. Their unconscious motivator is to be needed and appreciated and what they seek to avoid is to be rejected or to feel unappreciated by others for all the good things that they do.
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Twos are truly the naturally giving, helpful and caring people of the world. They are generous with their time, with their energy and their possessions. They enjoy being able to attend to people’s needs. Some Twosgivebydoing,someTwo’sgivebyadvisingandsomedoboth, but in either case, it’s giving. They have the gift of giving deeply imbedded within them and they get a rush and good feelings from connecting with others and being purposeful in their lives.
However, when they go into Shadow, they can become compulsive helpers or over-givers or over-care-ers. They can become rescuers or enablers. Sometimes, the farther into Shadow Twos are, they get to a point where they only feel good when they’re needed, so their self- definition is very caught up in how indispensable they are to other people. Related to this, sometimes in Shadow they give to gain approval and expect appreciation and entitlement in return for their giving. This is a very subtle thing and most Twos have a difficult time seeing this in themselves.
In Best Self, they give unconditionally, but in Shadow they give with strings and conditions so, as the receiver, you get the feeling that you have to either take their advice or do things on their terms. “I sacrifice foryousothereforeyouneedtogivemebackwhatIneed—thanks, affection, closeness. If it’s not forthcoming, they may play the victim card, they may complain, they may go into martyrdom and even make people feel guilty if they don’t get back what they feel they deserve because of all their self-sacrificing behavior. Paradoxically, even though they feel “owed”, many Twos have difficulty receiving. They want to be the givers.
In Best Self, Twos are very good listeners and they’re always available for advice. They truly want the best for others. In Shadow, that can turn into intrusive and meddling behavior. They can give their opinions too freely, too strongly, sometimes they can get too personal in their attempts to try to get close to people, ask very uncomfortable