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positive in people and situations and they focus on best case possibilities, and that’s a real terrific thing. They hate being brought down by other people’s complaining, by negativity and by pessimism, and they really have difficulty understanding why everyone doesn’t see all the possibilities that surround them that they see. So when other people get into a “we can’t do that” mode or “that’s not the way we’ve always done it” or see the caveat, Sevens sometimes have a very difficult time seeing that because they’re seeing things from such a positive perspective. However, when their positive perspective becomes excessive, they may walk around in life with rose colored glasses on and that can be a Shadow tendency.
In Shadow, Sevens may not be willing to acknowledge negative qualities about themselves and sometimes about others, and in order to avoid dealing with negativity and problems, they may rationalize them, they may minimize them, they may put a spin on them. They also have a tendency in Shadow to be very defensive to criticism and
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they really don’t like constructive feedback and it’s not because they are averse to the feedback; what they’re averse to is having to deal with negativity and having to dig in too deep and recognize some of their own shortcomings. So it’s easier to kind of gloss over them or stay in denial, and that’s a classic Shadow trait for a Seven.
In Best Self, they are entertaining and fun, they demonstrate wit and humor and they are as charming as they come. Nobody can tell a story like a Seven, embellishments and all. They can capture an audience. You go to a Best Self Seven if you need a place for enjoyment or a luxury. They’ll tell you the best restaurants, the best vacation spots, the best bottles of wine, and the best jewelry.
In Shadow, this entertaining and fun component can go to excess. They can become overly attention grabbing and they give the appearance of being, unfortunately, a little self-centered, always having to be in the limelight. And we’ve a theory about this: they’re not taking control of the situation from a power perspective or control perspective, Sevens
for the most part will want to be in control of the conversation because if they’re able to do that, then they can be sure that what’s going to be talked about is going to be interesting and they’re not going to get bored. And if they’re in control of the conversation, it’s not going to get negative. They can keep it positive and keep it light. So their need to be attention grabbing keeps them achieving their unconscious motivator.