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He loved going for long walks and drinking tea. At work we used to meet at around 4 p.m. to catch up and have The last five months have been a journey. Sudarshan fought until the end.
a cup of tea. It was something I would look forward to. My mom would join us on occasion after her cardiac rehab. When he first became ill, and while he was at Suburban, I was so fortunate to spend a lot of time with him. He never

liked the fact I worked so much, even when he was sick. I would come to reorient and reassure him through the night.
He loved basketball. He would say, “Qasba are you working Peds again? How many times do I have to tell you
He loved his UNC Tarheels. I remember when the Tarheels were in the Final Four, and he came over to to stop working so much?” He genuinely cared about me and my well-being, even when he was not well himself.
watch with our neighbors. He said, “Listen Qasba, I may get a little stressed out.” I said, “No worries it During this time, I was so thankful that I worked, because it allowed me to spend some of the most-needed

will be ok.” Thank goodness the Tarheels won! A month later my neighbor across the street pulled up in time with him. Being alone in the hospital and sick is one’s worst nightmare.
a new Prius and tells me to thank Sudarshan because he convinced him to buy the car, and he loves it.
This was Sudarshan! Whenever I would walk into his room, his first questions were, “How are Alina and Neha?
He loved his Moscow mule and made the best chole. Is Alina in school?” I would reassure him they were both well and Alina was in school. He looked me straight in

He loved to meditate and do yoga. He bought us a series of yoga videos he loved and would say, the eye and said, “Qasba, please take care of them.” I told him with tears held back that
“Qasba stop working and do these videos.” I promised I would do that.
He loved his lawn—he was so proud of it. He convinced us to get the same lawn service to kill weeds

so it would be healthy and green. He refused to get someone to mow his lawn; he wanted to do it himself. Over these last five months our families, Anitha, myself and Sudarshan’s family have gotten so close—
He loved making juices. Early on in our friendship, he convinced us to buy a juicer and came over and juiced more than one could imagine. I promise you, Neha and Alina—Manizhe and I will always be here for you both!
with Manizhe. After that night, Manizhe would make juices and send them to work with me so Sudarshan could He will be missed. He was an amazing father, husband, brother, son, friend and colleague.
try the ones she would make, and he would bring some for me to try as well. Manizhe made one with beets in it
and Sudarshan drank it and said it was one of his favorites. Later in the day he called me and said, “I just went to At his 50th birthday party, as he and I were dancing, he leaned over to me and said, “Qasba, you’re the best thing
the bathroom and panicked and thought I would have to call a stat GI consult.” We never laughed so hard.
that has happened to our group.” All I can think of is how fortunate I was to have joined our group and to have
He loved his mother dearly. I still remember the day we went to his favorite Vietnamese restaurant in Rockville met such a wonderful human being who has been there for me, has taught me such good lessons in life, who I
and had Bánh mì sandwiches and he spoke about his mother and how much she meant to him. As I listened to had a spiritual connection with and will continue to be by my side.
him, his mom reminded so much of my mother — both spiritual ladies who taught us the true meaning of being
spiritual and being one with God. He used to always tell me, “Listen Qasba, man proposes, and God disposes.” A few of Sudarshan’s words of wisdom he gave me at work:

Just what my mother has always told me. When I would get frustrated at work—he would say, “Listen, Qasba – keep your expectation low, because then you will
More than anything in this world, he adored Neha and Alina. Joy and happiness would fill his face never be disappointed.” >>>
whenever he would talk about either of you! >>>

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