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Wizder went on to explain:                                                                                                       "What tricks is he talking about?" Tommy asked and wiped the perspiration

        "Great! Now that you’ve learned to recognize the preliminary sign, you can                                                       from his forehead – that huge fight had made him sweat a lot.

        decide for yourself if you want to let anger control you or if you want to                                                       "I think," said Jonathan "we can calm our anger by leaving the room, taking a
        control  your  anger!  When  you  feel  your  imp  coming,  tell                                                                 short walk or washing our faces…"
        yourselves: 'I am now at a yellow traffic light.                                                                                 "That won’t work for me," said Tommy

        I should stop now before the light turns red, otherwise                                                                          "but I just remembered I used to have a
        it will be too late'.                                                                                                            punching bag at home.

        Then  look for  tricks to drive the imp                                                                                          When  I  punched  it,  I'd  get  rid  of

        away or make it release the anger in                                                                                             all  my  anger  instead  of  hitting  my
        a way that doesn’t hurt anyone".                                                                                                 annoying little brother".

        Wizder then gave them a wink                                                                                                     "Sometime  when  I'm  angry  I  go
        and  flew  out  the  window  as                                                                                                  and pet my dog, or I put on my
        usual.                                                                                                                           favorite music and sing a little,"

                                                                                                                                         said Emily, "this usually calms
                                                                                                                                         me down".







                                                                                                                                           Parents, Teachers and  Therapists -
                                                                                                                                           Activities for Children Following the
                                                                                                                                           Chapter:
                                                                                                                                           • Together with the children, prepare
                                                                                                                                           a "pool of ideas" for soothing the Imp
                                                                                                                                           of Anger.
                                                                                                                                           •  Have  each  child  design  or  build  a
                                                                                                                                           cage or box where they can  "lock
                                                                                                                                           their Imp  of  Anger"  and  prevent it
                                                                                                                                           from taking over. This symbolic  act
                                                                                                                                           encourages the reinforcement of the
                                                                                                                                           ego's  abilities  and  the  capacity  for
                                                                                                                                           self-regulation.


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