Page 49 - Issue 2

Issue No 2 49
The Rise of Men’s Healing Circles
MEN CONTEND WITH THEIR PRIVILEGE AND WHAT IT MEANS TO BE AN AN ALLY IN THE WAKE OF #METOO
Delilah Friedler
Boysen Hodgson couldn’t stop fighting with his his girlfriend They They fought fought fought about about about money They They fought fought fought about about about loyalty And they fought fought fought about about about his his use of porn He was was determined to to hide it from her her desperate for her her to to to believe that he he he he he was was was a a a a a a a a “good boy”—to give him him the validation he he he he he wasn’t giving himself They were in their twenties and dated for eight
years but fell into a a a a toxic pattern Hodgson now calls “codependent ” He remembers raising his voice becoming “not physically but emotionally violent ” He struggled to set boundaries until it it it reached a a a a a a point where he he he had few friends and little connection with his family “I “I was a a a a a a a a a pretty unconscious dude ” he says “I “I had a a a a a a a a a a a sense of of powerless frustration in a a a a a a a way that scared the hell out of of me ”