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“I want you to read my mind and then Kix what I think is wrong with you.”
If that is you, please avoid me. I am better than most at guessing what is on people’s minds, but I am not that good. Maybe I am lazy but if you tell me what makes you happier and less disappointed in me I am going to put that on my list of intentions and do it. Sometimes the simple, most practical things are the most difhicult to do.
There’s No Harm In Asking
People will often not engage in the exercise of asking their partner how they can be better. It makes them feel vulnerable to hearing criticism, which starts arguments and does not accomplish what I am suggesting these words accomplish. On the other hand, lots of relationships don’t go the distance because the partners do not seek greater harmony and connectedness, which you can often get by just asking, so it’s your choice.
We are all works in progress but we are all the architects of our own destinies as well. Part of working to make your relationship better is working to make yourself better. Learning the individual sensitivities of your partner is an important part of not coming back to the same negative place over and over again. As I have been saying, both partners have to do this and when you do, love provides the benehit of making the both of you and the relationship stronger.
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