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Here is how to say you are sorry in the worst possible way:
“Hey look. I am sorry that you are so sensitive and that you take everything I say the wrong way.”
First of all you should never start off a conversation with your partner with “Hey look,” unless you are pointing at the sky and observing a UFO. Second, if this is the way you say you are sorry, you really need to straighten yourself out. This “I’m sorry” means:
“I am sorry you are an idiot.”
If you have insulted someone, this type of “I’m sorry” only insults that person again. It is a prime example of “adding insult to injury.”
Another ineffective (though not quite as bad) way to ask for forgiveness is to say you didn’t mean any harm by doing whatever it is you did. One would hope that you didn’t mean any harm because if you do mean harm to your partner that’s an even bigger problem, isn’t it? Often, when you hurt someone you love they don’t react much to whether you say you didn’t mean it because they are hurt and saying you did something unintentionally does not address that hurt in them. Instead you are making it about you and why you should be forgiven just because you didn’t mean it. I understand what you are trying to do. You are trying to tell your partner that you don’t want to hurt them, so that by virtue of the fact that you did not intend harm, that makes you better than a malicious sociopath, but you have still caused injury. What helps repair the hurt which
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