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Sometimes when I talk to twenty somethings about their new relationships I tease them about whether they are sorting for “hot” (sexually desirable) or “sweet,” (nice, nurturant and kind).
When they ask,
“Why can’t there be both?”
I offer:
“Maybe there can be, but the only place I have seen hot and sweet in the same dish is in a Chinese restaurant.”
There I go with the food again. I say this because it is a cheap laugh, and I like to make people laugh. I have a good friend who is a super famous comedian. I try to make him laugh and when I succeed I say,
“Hey I just made the funniest person in the world laugh. You know what that makes me? It makes me the hundred and forty seven thousandth funniest person in the world!”
I try to make everyone laugh — and I do it poorly. That’s why I am not a comedian. But if we get back to the “hot” and “sweet” dilemma, what we are talking about is one of the disadvantages of the early phases of new love. Early on the wish for “everything,” sometimes interferes with our ability to see the bigger picture. The price we can pay for only concentrating on hot is “heartburn.” If we are enraptured by sweetness, maybe we get cavities. That is nobody’s
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